Recent data relating to couples who have married in recent years shows that men and women are deferring marriage to their late 20s and early 30s. In real terms what that means is that the people approaching the altar do so with “history.” The other thing that has changed over the years is who we marry. Before World War II chances were strong that your intended lived in your neighborhood or perhaps the “next parish over.” As time has evolved people found spouses in college and their workplace.